Organising a funeral for someone you love is a hard thing to do, even moreso when the death was sudden or unexpected. For some of us, the funeral is our final farewell to the deceased – the moment when we start to accept and process their loss, moving forward into a world without them.
There are lots of reasons why you may want to hold a delayed funeral. Sometimes, we’re just not ready to take that step until a little while after the death has occurred, whereas other times we may not feel the time is right for our family and friends to be able to pay their respects.
Whatever your reason for considering holding a delayed funeral, it’s much more common than you may initially think. Our guide will answer a few of the questions you likely have about delayed funerals and help you to consider whether this option is right for you.
Can I arrange a delayed funeral?
Yes, you can. You can make arranging a delayed funeral easier with a Distinct Cremations direct cremation. A direct cremation occurs shortly after a death has occurred, arranged directly with the crematorium, and has no mourners in attendance or funeral service.
Once the cremation has taken place, you can hold a funeral service at the venue of your choosing with a many friends and family present as you like. You’ll arrange a delayed funeral like you would any other gathering – choose your venue and a time, then make arrangements with your suppliers to provide decorations and catering for guests.
Before you book your funeral, be sure to let the venue know what your plans are as, depending on your plans, they may have some restrictions. For example, a dove release may not be possible at certain venues.
What happens at a delayed funeral?
What happens at a delayed funeral varies depending on the organiser, or the deceased’s, wishes. Basically, a delayed funeral will go however you want it to. You can hold a full funeral service, with songs, verses and everything but the final committal of the deceased. If the deceased was a religious person, try enquiring at their place of worship if they’d be able to perform a service for you without the deceased present – most are usually happy to fulfil requests like this.
Or, you can gather friends and family together for a memorial service, celebrating the life of the deceased and honouring their memory as group.
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There are many reasons why someone may choose to hold a delayed funeral. For some, they’re simply unable to face the funeral so soon after the death of their loved one and choose to delay the service until a later date.
For others, the deceased may have a large circle of friends and family who wish to attend their funeral but are unable to do so within the short time frame typically associated with holding a funeral. Delaying a funeral to a later date gives more people chance to attend and pay their respects, especially if they have busy schedules or live far away from the deceased.
There are also people who no longer wish to have a funeral in the traditional way, with all of its pomp and ceremony. In these instances, delaying the funeral gives family a longer period of time in which to arrange a celebration that truly reflects the deceased’s life and character.
What happens to my loved one if I delay their funeral?
If you wish to delay the funeral of a loved one, there are a few different options you can look at. If you want to delay a full ceremony, with the deceased in attendance, you can arrange with a funeral director to provide specialised care of the deceased until the delayed funeral date.
With a direct cremation, you can hold a delayed funeral without having to worry about what will happen to your loved one in the time between. A direct cremation lets you separate the act of cremation from the celebration of the deceased’s life by providing a respectful unattended cremation shortly after the death has occurred.
At Distinct Cremations, we treat each person entrusted to us with the utmost care and respect. Our funeral team will collect your loved one in a specialised funeral vehicle and bring them to our purpose-built mortuary facility where they’ll be carefully washed, dressed and prepared for cremation.
Can I delay my own funeral?
Of course you can. If you’re thinking about making arrangements for your funeral and you think that your family would benefit from being able to delay your funeral then our prepaid direct cremation plan may be a good fit for you.
Our Individual Cremation Plan will provide collection, care and a dignified cremation without a funeral or service. Your ashes will be returned to your family by hand who can then hold a funeral for you when they feel the time is right.
If you are considering taking out a prepaid funeral plan with the intention of your family holding a delayed funeral for you, be sure to talk to them about your wishes first so they understand what you have chosen and why.
Delaying a funeral can have a lot of benefits, not just for the family of the deceased but for their entire circle of friends and family. If you’re thinking of arranging a direct cremation with the intention to host a funeral at a later date, call our Personal Advisors today to find out how we can help.
Distinct Cremations is a trading name of Distinct Cremations Limited I Registered in England, No. 13366310 and Distinct Funeral Plans Limited (Prepaid Funeral plan provider) I Registered in England, No. 13366327 | Registered Office Westerleigh Crematorium, Westerleigh Road, Bristol BS37 8QP | Part of the Westerleigh Group |
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